November 19 is marked as International Men's Day. It is a day to introspect about the mental health of men, a subject that still remains critical all over the world. The World Health Organization estimates that nearly two out of five men suffer from serious mental illness at some stage in their life. The worrying fact is that only a small percentage seek professional help. The stigma associated with the mental health issues of men exists in many societies, and men are naturally dissuaded from venting their emotions. "Men don't cry" and "handle it yourself" discourage discussing emotional troubles.
In Kerala, the incidence of suicide is much more among men than women; however, men are several times less likely to take any form of treatment for the same. The most critical mental health concerns that men may experience include chronic anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, and indifference to work and relationships. Additional problems that face many men involve excessive anger and frustration, a sense of hopelessness, that are often compounded by financial and job-related pressure, family concerns, relationship matters, and being expected to play up to socially constructed expectations around masculinity.
Depression in men is different from that in women. Men are more irritable, detached, and emotionally distant. They withdraw, avoid social interactions, and turn to substances like alcohol and drugs to cope with their emotions. These behaviors often worsen their mental health over time, creating a vicious cycle. Symptoms such as sleep disturbances, persistent anxiety, and physical pain are common early signs of mental health issues in men.
So, why don't males go to treatment? There are several factors behind this reluctance: fear of judging, or of repercussions in the workplace, or even just fears of being thought weak. These factors can be solved, and support is available. For a man, it is crucial that he feels comfortable to disclose the problems he faces with a trusted friend, family, or through professional psychiatic healers. Regular exercise, proper nutrition, sufficient sleep, and healthy hobbies like reading, music, or art can greatly improve mental well-being. These activities help relax the mind and body, and they offer a positive distraction from stress.
When someone close to you appears to be struggling, listen with empathy. Avoid passing judgment, and encourage them to seek help. Therapy, counseling, and online mental health services are all valuable resources that can help men navigate their mental health challenges. Men can also join support groups, where they can connect with others who understand their struggles.
Ultimately, men's mental health is not just a personal issue; it's a societal concern. As a community, we must raise awareness about mental health, promote the acceptance of emotional vulnerability, and encourage men to seek help when needed. Understanding that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but rather a responsibility to oneself and others can make a profound difference. Early intervention is very key to the effectiveness of treatment. Creating a friendly environment at workplaces and families is of equal importance.
Mental health challenges are more prevalent among men, and acknowledging this issue is both individual and societal. They have to break stigma and then offer support for building a healthy future for all.
Author: Child & Adolescent Counselor and Relationship Specialist