Do you too face these problems in your life?
Even after twelve years of marriage, the issues remain unresolved. Only the presence of two young children has kept us holding on. I have yet to experience the mutual love, trust, and respect that I wanted from my marital life. This is what triggers frustration.
It is important to understand why there are conflicts in a marriage and resolve them with mutual cooperation. Less communication, if there is no growth in the marital life, is a significant sign. If there is limited conversation, and in every conversation, when you interact, you tend to misunderstand each other and misinterpret everything, it leads to emotional distance.
Sometimes, one of the spouses just keeps quiet in the hope that this will save them from any further problems. This is not a healthy relationship. A relationship needs mutual respect and proper communication. If a partner humiliates the other before others, the latter feels devalued and the relationship goes downhill. Secrecy can result from this practice, where personal matters are divulged to people without the permission of the spouse, thereby killing the relationship more.
The fact that one might raise past errors or bad judgment in front of others creates more problems. A repetition of matters results in separation emotionally. As there is a lack of mutual trust, the possibility of lies and concealment is quite easier, thus producing more problems.
Financial problems also contribute to marital stress. If both the spouses are busy working and cannot spend much time together, their bonding weakens. The lack of time with each other, combined with not solving problems at hand, increases mental pressure. Similarly, excessive control over a spouse, such as permanently seeing whose phone is ringing or keeping them from talking to others, can create unease.
When partners fail to make time for each other and focus only on their own lives, it leads to increased distance and emotional strain. Not working together to raise children or even failing to agree on important matters within the family can also cause turmoil, potentially affecting the children in negative ways.
Domestic violence, both physical and emotional abuse, is another serious issue that can destroy marital life. If one spouse has traits of personality disorders like borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, then therapy is a must. Otherwise, the relationship becomes meaningless to continue with. Such behavior may eventually lead to divorce, and if noticed early, long-term suffering can be avoided.
These challenges require being well tackled to sustain a healthy marriage. This will, therefore, be about teamwork by both parties as well as efficient communication, especially on matters involving emotional support. In such circumstances, neglect of the basics sets up a marriage for extreme tests that are prone to result in separation.